Never insult your parents. Calling them names will land you in more trouble than it’s worth, and you’ll regret doing it later. If you feel like flinging an insult, count to 10 before speaking, and take a few deep breaths to calm yourself down.
For instance, you could say something like, “I’m really sorry I stayed out past curfew. I know you worry when I’m not home on time, and I really will try to be home on time in the future. " Pay attention to your tone and expression (body language). Don’t smirk when you are apologizing, and don’t mumble through the apology. Mumbling says you are just trying to get through it, and you aren’t owning up to what you did. Speak in a clear voice that shows you really are sorry.
For instance, saying “But Marcie didn’t get in trouble when she stayed out too late!” will not endear you to your parents. You and your sister are different people, and your parents are doing what they think is best.
If you do offer an alternative punishment and your parent accepts, make sure you follow through with it. Otherwise, this option won’t be available to you in the future because your parents won’t trust you to do what you say.
Try saying something to this effect: “I know I was late for school again. Do you think we can sit down and talk about how I can manage my time better? I always feel rushed in the mornings, and I can’t seem to get myself together. "
For instance, if you stayed out past curfew, you could say, “I know it was wrong of me to stay out past curfew, but I ran out of gas on the way home. I know that I should plan ahead, and I’ll try to not be in this situation again. Do you think maybe we can skip the punishment this time?” Approach the discussions with tact.
Additionally, the more you complain, the more your parents will know you hate the punishment, meaning it’s the perfect punishment for them to choose the next time you get in trouble.
For example, if you stayed out past curfew, you could write a letter that says the following: “Dear [parents], I realize now that I should have called when I was out so late. Staying out too late was bad enough, but then I made you worry by not letting you know where I was. I know you love me and want to keep me safe, and I really do appreciate how concerned you are about me. In the future, I’ll try to be more considerate of your feelings in all situations, and let you know where I am no matter what. Love, Jessie”
Remember not to demand to be let off. You are making a request, which means your parents have the option to say no. Also, be specific. Say something like “Mom, can I talk to you? I know getting behind on my school work was wrong, and I have learned my lesson. I think you may have noticed that I’ve gotten all my homework done early this week, and I’ve abided by your punishment. Do you think you could please let me off a little early so I can see Julie this weekend? I have already done my homework for next week. "
Take care of the tasks you normally leave to your parents, such as washing your clothes or dishes and making your food. Develop a more mature relationship with your parents by sharing responsibilities, intermittently cooking meals for the entire household, or taking on projects in the house.
